Sunday, April 10, 2022

A Much Needed Spring Break Getaway

With COVID restrictions relaxing and life becoming more and more safe for my kids, getting out of dodge had been more and more a priority.  The COVID life has had various layers of really-hard for my family, but since November I've had a particularly difficult season.  We had covid over the thanksgiving holiday which was concurrent with loosing all of my back office staff at the clinic.  Between making up for lost time while sick & school closures, the holidays and the significant increase in clinic demand during Christmas AND having no staff to support me during that time, my already notable work load nearly doubled--taking nursing triage calls during dinner and working until after 11pm had become the norm into January.  February brought significant medical visits for both kids leading to new medical issues that now need to be addressed and my mother found herself in the hospital for a week and needing nearly a month of rehab in her home thereafter. Not to mention the Seattle Winter Gray--uggg. It was A LOT.  I admit, I cried out more than once "Lord, this yoke is NOT easy. The next step in front of me has to be Yours". We needed to get out of town.  I needed to get out town.  

The criteria was set--Warm. I needed the sun and lots of it! No cooking. No cleaning. Somewhere we've never been. Pool for the kids.  Space for me to read after bedtime.  Everything else was negotiable.

Location: Phoenix.   

Day 1:

I can't say it enough. My kids are STELLAR travelers. Even after 3 years of being grounded, they stepped right into their frequent flyer shoes.  (Maybe when your first exposure to family life is a 5,300 mile flight to America, you are predestined to travel greatness??) Both kids also know that traveling is one of the two times that they have access to their tablets, and there is usually a surprise tucked away in their backpacks...which means momma gets to read uninterrupted on the plane.  #mommasnotstupid 






Turns out the Great State of Arizona has a fabulous drink called a Shirley Temple. It's because the drink is ONLY available in Arizona it became a daily poolside treat. Too bad Washington doesn't have them. *shoot*. We'll have to visit Arizona again someday. *wink*



Day 2:

When planning for our trip I stumbled upon a Expedia package deal that included a hotel at the River Ranch Waterpark. Oh my...this was incredible. We have been ruined for any other hotel pools!











Day 3:

Early morning swim in the 'normal' pool' followed by a drive to Tortilla Flats in the heart of the Superstition Mountains and a boat ride around Canyon Lake. 



Tonto National Forest...coming from the PNW, these "forests" were giving me a good giggle. 




Prickly pear lemonade:


The Dolly Steamboat on Canyon Lake:













Day 4:

Gramma joined us for the last half of the trip.  I love that my kids are filling their memory tanks with special Gramma times (that is something that I did not have as a child).  


 Isaac literally threw a ball back and forth in the pool for a hour.  Mila had a big win in the pool--she never learned how to breathe & drink at the same time (something that is learned through safe feeding as a infant); getting her face wet in the shower or pool is a big anxiety producing event for her.  I hadn't found a way to help her take those first steps toward swimming independently by blowing bubbles in the water, UNTIL I accidently threw a ball in her direction, it splashed her in the face and she was willing to throw it back to me.  It was an ah-ha moment.  I spent the next 45 min accidently-on purpose throwing the ball so it splashed her in the face and she didn't complain (or choke) once.  POOLSIDE WIN!









We adventured up the South Mountain to Dobbins Lookout for a panoramic view of the Phoenix area. Flaaat-pile of rocks!-flaaat-pile of rocks!  is the best way I know to describe the jarring landscape.  











Massive win for me in the evenings: I left my work phone and laptop behind, gracefully asked my staff to not call me, took social media off my phone and brought a 450page book, which I read cover to cover.  A real live get away. 

Day 5:

An early morning visit to the Botanical Gardens before the real heat kicked in.  Both kids were interested in taking their own photos. Despite 315 deleted photos later, they actually found some really great shots!















*****









More pool time. The lazy river has become our #1 favorite spot.  At one point, around one of our many turns around the river, the kids were peacefully floating in their tubes, I was walking slowing in the water between them, the sun was warm and perfect, we were surrounded by the fragrance of jasmine and chirps of doves, quails and grackles and despite traumatically breaking my toe in the lazy river (don't ask), I thought THIS. This is perfect.  Sensory heaven. 








Day 6:

A last dip in the pool before packing up and grabbing lunch with some local friends.  They recommended their favorite gelato place, which did not disappoint!  




On the hottest day of our trip (nearly 100) we swung by Arizona Falls before heading to the airport for our now delayed late flight. 








1145pm.  Woody is officially done with traveling.  



We collapsed into our own beds at 0100, sun kissed, relaxed and ready to add many more lazy rivers to our travel list.  




Monday, February 21, 2022

The 8th Planet

IEP (individualized education plan) meetings… I HATE them. I don’t hate the lovely teachers & specialists that care for my kids; I hate the process. I hate our school district’s access philosophy for kids with special needs. I hate that I have to FIGHT for something so simple as an education for my kids…and on a regular basis. (I hate there are so many non English speaking families that can’t fight the way I’ve needed to). I hate not knowing if I’m pushing my kids too hard or not enough. It’s physically & emotionally exhausting…

Over the last six years, I’ve had to fight ridiculously hard for Isaac to be kept with his Gen Ed peers with a modified curriculum in the classroom. He is engaged and excited to be there but I haven’t known if my functionally nonverbal child is retaining any information at a 4th grade level. Then, out of no where he started reciting the planets! In order! With descriptors (biggest, hottest, sideways)!
😳😳
😍😍😍
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An engaged para at his side who can quickly modify class work, a dedicated speech therapist who preloaded curriculum appropriate vocabulary on his Talker, a Gen Ed teacher who is committed to engagement not test scores and a kid who is eager to learn with his friends…we did it!! Hallelujah!!



Saturday, February 19, 2022

Sugar Momma

We had a fun little milestone in our house recently...understanding the value of money.  

Mila LOVES music and her down time usually includes listening to and/or singing along to music in her room.  She got a FROZEN karaoke machine sometime during quarantine and has been collecting CDs for Christmas and her birthday.  About two weeks ago, Mila decided she wanted to add a specific soundtrack to her collection.  In a moment of  parental "I wonder if she is ready for this?" introspection, I asked Mila if she wanted to BUY her own CD. She responded with curiosity and a conversation about working and dollars and buying ensued.  In the end, Mila made a chart of the goal she was working towards (the Frozen Broadway soundtrack), how much it would cost ($14) and the jobs she could do to gets 'dollars' (help with the recycling, fold the socks, unload the silverware, etc).  



I had NO idea how seriously she would take this! She would jump at the opportunity to help me and get her dollar. 



She did it!  Every day she counted her dollars and was able to quickly add how much one more dollar would add to her coffers (this is a HUGE math skill for her!)

And wouldn't you know it, the VERY DAY she got to hand over her $14 and buy her CD online, it arrived in the mail.  (How DID that happen??) ;) 

Parenting a teen in a way that fosters both foundational dependence & trust in a caregiver AND age appropriate independence is a bit of a tightrope walk.  I spend a lot of brain time attempting to discern am I parenting what she never was taught before or parenting for what she will need to know later?? I'll admit that finding a reasonable stride on that tightrope has been difficult.  But this little project--helping her set a goal, finding a practical way to meet it, letting her reap the rewards of her good efforts AND stand in confidence that she doesn't need to earn her place in the family, was a win for both of us. <3 

She already has two more dollars in her jar for her next special purchase. *wink*

Wednesday, January 19, 2022

Happy 17th Birthday, Mila!

 Kamila Naomi is officially SEVENTEEN years old!!




This is year two of COVID birthday protocol and I really struggled to come up with a celebration that seemed worthy of turning 17 and meeting Mila's relationship needs in a covid-safe way. After a couple weeks of brainstorming, I came up with a scavenger hunt of sorts. Seven different clues guided her through the day to make her 17th birthday special...



#1 A special new shirt for your surprise day



#2 A special drink with your favorite Sunday person  (Pastor Elanor)



#3 A fancy lunch with Finn & Roo's momma-chica  (My college friend Risa)



#4 Time to shop for make-up (hello gift card that has been sitting in my purse for 2 years!)



#5 Go have cake & presents (By special request...a hamburger cake!)


(Great Aunt Nancy & Uncle Jake scoring big points in the card department!)



#6 She has a special seat in the car next to you & Isaac  (Annie!!)




#7 They live at Auntie Jessie's house and love your favorite food  (Dinner with the cousins)




Mila spent the day as the center of attention in the lives of many of her favorite people--there is no greater love language than that for my girl <3    This is just our 4th birthday together and I'm still learning what and how my girl appreciates things...she grabbed me in the hall this evening and humbly said "Mom. Thank you for mine 17 burrthday" then wrapped me in a hug.  I think the day was a success.  


Happy 17th Birthday, Kamila Naomi.  May you be blessed in this next year with health as the Lord continues to develop in you His unique gifts & callings that only you can fulfill.  You are a gift to us. 




Saturday, January 1, 2022

Making Holy Bowling

We adopted the Dutch tradition of making Olie Bollen on New Years Day with Gramma 8 or 9 years ago. Isaac has been involved in some fashion every year and while Mila was still in her "not crossing the kitchen threshold" stage for her first New Years in 2019, she has quickly learned to enjoy both the process and the outcome.    

This year the fun for my Chinese son and Albanian daughter was attempting to pronounce the Dutch words Olie Bollen and Appleflappen.  I declared success when Mila spouted "oh...HOLY BOWLING!" (As if nothing made any sense prior to her accurate translation of this annual event) Yep...that's it!  Traditional New Years Day Dutch Holy Bowling! 😜






Isaac made the "coppy" (coffee = hot chocolate) and set the table. Then my IHOP family sat drinking hazelnut hot chocolate, eating Holy Bowling and watching the tiny little chickadees bop around in the snow.  Feels like a good way to start the new year. 



(also, pro tip...don't attempt to make appleflappen in the airfryer.  Some foods are just meant to be deep fried!)